On Fearing Emotions

When you fear feeling a certain feeling, you set up all sorts of defenses and strategies to keep yourself from feeling that feeling. For instance, if you fear that you might be bad, you will try to convince others of your goodness by not displaying healthy negative emotions and by allowing yourself to be mistreated, thereby bringing to life various formations geared towards obtaining the confirmation from the outside that you are good. The fear of experiencing that emotion of being bad is what sets everything in motion. As always, the difficulty of it is that it is unconscious, which means you are not aware of the force that is driving you into action, appearing as a spontaneous inner impulse. “I just feel that way.”

But if you observe yourself like you are an objective thing in the world you can ask yourself “what am I trying to get from others?” and it is very likely that you will find that you fear the opposite in yourself. So if you try to convince others you are good, you are probably afraid that you are bad.

So what can you do when you find that fear? Agree to it! Fine, I am bad! And feel whatever pain/fear/anger/etc. might arise in association with that. So, ok, fine, I am bad. Game over. But don’t fall into the trap of judging yourself for it or trying to change it, just feel it as it is. And then you can release it.

The thing is that when you fear an experience on the spectrum of emotions, you bind yourself to it and you filter reality through the fear of being that, but the moment you go through the experience, it dissolves. It has nothing on you anymore. The reason you fear it is that you believe it is a permanent, immutable reality when the truth is that you are maintaining it because you fear going through it.

So back in childhood, because you didn’t allow yourself the feeling/experience of being bad, you carried it with you into adulthood, but feelings are there to be felt and let go, they carry information and then they leave. It is us who turn them into verdicts.

Tools of Media Manipulation [Part 1]

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I am very happy to announce that I have created my first Udemy course called Tools of Media Manipulation. You can find it here. Link includes discount.

“Manipulation tactics work because they address our blind spots, our assumptions and our vulnerabilities.

In this course we will look into how we can be persuaded to adopt certain beliefs through language tricks, subtle suggestions and emotional manipulation.

We will look into how we give away our power in the name of good intentions and we will see how we can take it back.

This is the first part of the Tools of Media Manipulation course in which I discuss the fundamentals of media manipulation and how it relates to our emotional wounds. Before we are able to identify manipulative behavior we need to understand how our mind works and how we form belief.

I intend to create one or two more parts on Media Manipulation in which I will discuss each tool in detail (Labels/Frames, Assuming Reasons, Repetition, Authority Figures, False Opposites, Discrediting Dissent, etc). In the next parts I will also discuss ways of defending ourselves from manipulation tactics.”