Compassion and kindness are beautiful but so are boundaries and standards of behavior.
People want to be held at high standards of behavior even if they don’t know it. Because guilt is harder to bear than anger and truth is more liberating than what seems advantageous.
If you meet people with kindness and compassion all the time for the things that they do, you are also enabling bad behavior. And you are also taking upon yourself the consequences of their actions.
People need to experience the impact of their own mistakes and patterns of behavior and that is what honest reflection allows them to do.
Your boundaries benefit others too.
I am starting to believe that whatever happens, needs to happen. The action reveals the weakness/virtue/motivation, the reaction is corrective.
And everything becomes a lesson.
It’s not really about making the right or wrong choice, it’s about exposing the inner climate from which the choice is made.
It’s about revealing you to yourself.
The beliefs we hold limit the reality we experience.
Say one of our qualities is courage. But somewhere along the line we have an experience where we draw the conclusion that we must never make mistakes. The belief is not made conscious but it guides our behavior. Then, because of this belief, our innate quality of courage turns into its opposite: cowardice or a distortion of it, recklessness.
So you have courage radiating…
And then you place the filter of belief/fear in front of it.
And it comes out distorted and destructive.
The difficult part is that the belief is unconscious, which means we are not aware of it. But we can only recognize it through self observation. It’s like getting to know yourself by the effects.
And all this is only because of an idea in your unconscious!
Belief creating the reality you experience, bidirectionally. It limits what you can do and it limits what you perceive.